Blog Post No. 2, For My New Book: “Hunting Hunches – A narrative guide to develop intuitive decision making hand.:
So you are into dipshit? Taken a few or a great many blows right into the face or probably into balls? Well, congratulations then, that’s the price of playing a knockdown match. You are into arena, and it shows you are fighting. Just imagine the legendary film “Rocky” in which the protagonist “Sylvester Stallone” chartered as “Rocky Balboa – a small time club fighter”, got a shot for 1-on-1 world heavyweight championship with all-time hit and world champion titleholder Apollo Creed. Check out the dialog he had with ‘Adrian’ (his girlfriend):
“Ah come on, Adrian, it’s true. I was nobody. But that don’t matter either, you know? ‘Cause I was thinkin’, it really don’t matter if I lose this fight. It really don’t matter if this guy opens my head, either. ‘Cause all I wanna do is go the distance. Nobody’s ever gone the distance with Creed, and if I can go that distance, you see, and that bell rings and I’m still standin’, I’m gonna know for the first time in my life, see, that I weren’t just another bum from the neighborhood.”
All that was important for Rocky was to ‘go to the distance’ which means lasting for all 15 rounds with the world heavy weight champion, and enjoy this victory with his girlfriend. He didn’t care if he loose (which actually in his mind he didn’t – as he didn’t knock out). He actually wasn’t interested at all winning the match, only thing which interested him was “not being another bum from the neighbourhood”. Know that life is unfair and you would fail often, however if you keep taking actions, keep getting up when life pushes you down and keep taking risks despite your previous traumatic fears, you are bound to succeed through it.
Stop complaining now about how your life sucks. Because either you complain about it or you do something about it. And the word ‘manning up’ contrasts pussifiction of man. Don’t be a pussified male. Suck it up, as its definition says – the power of endurance during the time of mental, emotional or physical distress. And the first step in the process of sucking up is – accepting the situation, accepting the hardship, accepting the confusion and struggle during the cross roads and let me clarify one more thing, happiness is in the struggle, peace is in the struggle, joy is in the struggle. That’s why serenity after a hurricane has its own value – completing a difficult project has its own satisfaction, climbing Everest is so satisfying, hustling and building a business is so satisfying, learning a new skill is so satisfying, writing a book and publishing is so satisfying. Because when you climb the Everest, you acknowledge the fear and you act anyway, and when you are at the summit you could remember the struggle; the hardship and the distress, and you can say fuck it – I have done it.
Many times you could notice cravings of healing before you would start to take any actions. However, as very intelligently said by “Steven Pressfield” in his incredible book “The War of Arts” ‘the part of us that we imagine needs healing is not the part we create from.’ The part we create from is very intelligently secluded from the rest of tangible body. You cannot heal the innermost concealed self. You can heal only the physical body not the creative part. Your personal life needs healing – Probably relationship with your women, your children needs healing, probably your emotions need healing, however this is not the part you create from. Believe me on this, if you think first you would heal yourself and then you would take actions, I recommend take actions first – and you will feel healed mechanically. Just take the first step regardless of whether you have skills or not – They would be developed on the way through your hustling as wonderfully explained by the character “Bill Murray” in the film “What About Bob” – “The urgent and demanding need to take baby steps.”
Again I am not a big fan of motivation, however I am a big follower of ‘massive actions’, and massive actions starts with first baby step.